Well, i don't know what did it, but it's done!!! I connected the sat again (remember, I did try it before with the sat and bound them a million times before!). So this around the light in the RX & sat are both lit when connected! When I Saw that I knew something good was going to happen! So this time when I hit start for the calib, I could adjust the travel on the gear switch and viola... got the Atti mode and then the M mode both working and got all the sticks moving and trimmed out... BUT (and this is one BIG but!)... the ESC #1 (the one that used to heat up) must be half-dead or something. Got all the motors running except for the one hooked up to that... That one only vibrates and hardly moves. Is it the ESC or the motor?!
Here's a recap of some of the lessons learned by me and some that may help some other newbies like me :
1. Ask questions. One person's opinion may just be their, well, opinion... Here I got so many different troubleshooting ideas that collectively appears to have helped solve the problem... and of course I learned so much along the way. For example, had it not been for the video I saw of some guy on Vimeo who showed who to adjust the travel on the TX to get the gear switch out of the fail-safe mode, I would've still been asking questions. But the minute I got the TX to work in the calib mode, I knew exactly how to get the rest done... thanks in part to that video.
2. RTFM! I did read the manual and it helped me in so many ways I can't even describe--even though I had to decipher the DJI English for me to understand parts of it better, it's still MUCH better than not reading the manual...
3. The ESC's with internal BEC need to have their red wires removed before connecting them to the FC! I don't care how much of an expert builder you are... When it can't be done (and apparently it can damage some or all of your components), it can't be done!
4. Just attach the darn VU! It's real simple especially if you have a PDB. It's more than just an LED! It is obviously a BEC that regulates the voltage going into the FC also. Can't believe I was told otherwise initially.........
I still need to figure out what the heck is wrong with my motor/ESC 1. Should I isolate that ESC and motor to see if the combo works at all? Can I measure the voltage, amperage, etc. (not an electronic guy obviously but have a multimeter and know my way around that to a limited degree) coming out of the ESC? The ESC's are supposed to have been flashed with SimonK's F/W so I don't even know how to begin to replace one to match the other3... so I am kind of hoping if I have to replace anything that it'd be the motor! Any troubleshooting tips will be appreciated...